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		<title>How to Prevent Childhood Obesity</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 26 Jan 2010 06:28:15 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Childhood obesity affects children in the same ways that obesity affects adults. Children who are overweight are more likely to develop diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, depression, lowered self esteem, and breathing disorders such as asthma and sleep apnea.Childhood obesity has become an epidemic in the United States. Today over nine million children over [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Childhood obesity affects children in the same ways that obesity affects adults. Children who are overweight are more likely to develop diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, depression, lowered self esteem, and breathing disorders such as asthma and sleep apnea.Childhood obesity has become an epidemic in the United States. Today over nine million children over the age of six are considered obese. Childhood obesity is caused by many different factors including environmental, social and genetic. This article will discuss each of these causes and what you can do as a parent to prevent obesity in your children.Childhood Obesity Can be Prevented &#8211; This is probably the best way to combat obesity in children. Unfortunately, not every parent has this luxury. If you&#8217;re a parent whose child doesn&#8217;t yet have a problem with their weight, begin to take a proactive approach to their diet and exercise.Lack of regular exercise is a factor that has contributed to this being one of the causes of childhood obesity. Children who spend a lot of time watching TV programs will have a greater risk of child obesity than those who go outside playing or sporting. This is typically true when the children are eating fast food while watching television or playing video games.Childhood obesity is a major problem that most of the developed countries are facing today. It has alarmed the whole world and frightfully, if not cured during childhood, will result in your child being overweight throughout his or her adult years. This may also result in a number of serious diseases like diabetes and high blood pressure.Lack of physical activity, poor eating habits, when children are exposed to others who promote sedentary behaviors, and socioeconomic stresses. There is one factor that cannot be helped and that is genetics. When a child has genetics from an obese background their chances of becoming obese greatly increase.Childhood obesity can increase the chances that a child will develop issues with asthma, and obesity can further complicate existing asthmatic issues. Experts are now finding that there may be a link between the onset of asthma and obesity. Further, since extra weight strains the body physically, it can also strain the already weakened respiratory system of the child suffering from asthma and asthmatic attacks.We need to start early as possible by introducing our children to a healthy diet as soon as they start eating solid foods. Toddlers should be allowed to sample a wide variety of different flavors and tastes. Starting early with a varied healthy diet is a good basis on which to build good eating habits.Genetics: It has to be conceded that no matter what action parents, society, or the children themselves take, the genetic hand that the child was dealt will have a great impact on the outcome of any choices whether good or bad. However, the good news is that many negative genetic factors can be overcome to at least some extent by wise choices, which we will discuss in a few minutes.Encourage the child to participate in sports and other physical activities. Physical activity is very essential for slimming. This will restrict fat formation in the body. It is essential that physical activity should be done daily and regularly. </p>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 25 Jan 2010 19:49:39 +0000</pubDate>
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		<title>Eight Simple Reasons Why Cotton Pajamas Make The Perfect Gift</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 25 Jan 2010 06:53:16 +0000</pubDate>
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COTTON PAJAMAS MAKE IMPERSONAL GIFTS
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In certain situations and for certain people, cotton pajamas may be the best gift to buy. Here are eight simple reasons why you can&#8217;t go wrong with cotton pajamas:<br />
COTTON PAJAMAS MAKE IMPERSONAL GIFTS<br />
If you wish to ensure that the recipient won&#8217;t have any reason to misconstrue your gift for anything other than just a plain gift, cotton pajamas are just the answer to your present dilemma (yes, pun intended). Unless you and the other person have inside jokes about cotton pajamas, there&#8217;s no way for any person to derive any hidden implication from a simple gift of cotton pajamas.<br />
COTTON PAJAMAS MAY BE A NECESSITY<br />
There are a number of situations that warrant a need for cotton pajamas, and will definitely make you a thoughtful guest for giving such a gift. Cotton pajamas may be deemed necessary in the following conditions:<br />
Finicky Sleepers – If the recipient is known to have a hard time sleeping, your gift symbolizes your concern and your wish for him or her to enjoy a good night&#8217;s sleep. Jewelries or clothes can never give a person a deep restful slumber the way comfortable cotton pajamas can!<br />
Moving Out – People who are moving out to a new state, and one where the nights are longer and colder, will benefit from a new pair of pajamas because most of their old sleepwear is probably inadequate to use in their new home.<br />
Camping – While living right next to Mother Nature can be quite an experience, that doesn&#8217;t mean it will be all sweetness and light. Mosquitoes present quite a problem. If you know you&#8217;re recipient is about to leave for a camping trip, your cotton pajamas will definitely prove to be a godsend!<br />
Conservativeness – Conservative individuals who are about to test their demure sensibilities by living with people of the other sex will thank you for giving them just the right type of sleepwear to make them feel safe and secure at night.<br />
COTTON PAJAMAS ARE AFFORDABLE<br />
Unlike other gifts, cotton pajamas are not only practical choices but affordable as well. They&#8217;re certainly cheaper and more useful than a bouquet of imported flowers!<br />
COTON PAJAMAS MAKE A UNIQUE GIFT<br />
For people with everything, there&#8217;s probably little thing in this world that will make them exclaim in surprised pleasure…except for a gift of cotton pajamas!<br />
COTTON PAJAMAS ARE GREAT FOR KIDS OUT FOR A SLUMBER PARTY<br />
If your daughter is planning to hold a slumber party, you can surprise her with a beautiful pair of cotton pajamas. Of course, make sure that you choose cotton pajamas which are designed according to her preferences and not yours. Kids nowadays simply have different tastes from adults.<br />
COTTON PAJAMAS ARE GREAT FOR BABIES AND TODDLERS<br />
If adults can never be too thin or too rich, babies can never have too many pairs of cotton pajamas. Whether your godchild&#8217;s a girl or a boy, a cute pair of cotton pajamas is sure to please your godchild&#8217;s doting parents.<br />
While some people believe that they have to look great and feel great before they can confidently wear sexy lingerie, no such issues bother the wearer when it comes to cotton pajamas. With cotton pajamas, you don&#8217;t have to be extra confident, extra sexy or extra anything. With cotton pajamas, all you have to be is just yourself and that&#8217;s why they make the perfect gift. </p>
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		<title>Motherhood &#8211; Overcoming the Difficulties</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 24 Jan 2010 18:14:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Joel</dc:creator>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Mothers, especially a new one, experience great joy when they cradle their newborn babies in their arms. No matter how painful the delivery process was and how tired she may be, a mother immediately yearns to bond with her baby and looks forward to the experience of motherhood.Unfortunately, in many instances, the trip back from the hospital with the baby can also be the beginning of a nightmare for a new mother. When previously her thought of motherhood is centered on taking care of a cute and smiley little one, now, she may feel that she is being saddled with an ‘uncontrollable’ baby. Exhaustion and lack of sleep coupled with a fussy baby can easily trigger such a switch in emotions. Sometimes, the problem is also compounded by the lack of help from the spouse, especially when he is not always home due to work commitments, resulting in the mother having to shoulder the burden of childcare on her own. This caused resentment to build up and together with the exhaustion, they become a potent combination for quarrels to take place. The downhill slide into further unhappiness and depression is but a step away in such a scenario.If you are one of those mothers who is feeling this way, there are a few things that you can do to make the experience of motherhood more fulfilling.1. Take the Initiative to LearnIf you have a fussy baby and are at a loss on how to handle the situation, be proactive and search for solutions. For example, many babies like to be rocked to sleep and the moment you put them down in their cot, they will start crying incessantly. Take a step back and do not be consumed by anger or sadness. Instead look for the reason behind the problem and find out whether there are solutions that could possibly work for your baby. Talk to other parents and check if they have encountered the same problem before. Alternatively, the internet is a rich source of information and there are many websites that offer valuable advice on a wide range of issues when it comes to baby care. If you take the initiative to learn, you will have a better idea of what to expect and what you can do to cope, thus, lessening unnecessary pressure on yourself.2. Be FlexibleWe are all creatures of habit and sometimes, this may not necessarily be a good thing. For instance, you may have a list of chores that you need to do each morning but are now finding it difficult to squeeze in all of the tasks before your baby wakes up for the day. If that is the case, redo your list and move your chores around. There is no fixed rule to say that you have to do the laundry at a particular time of the day, is there? Similarly, if you have not vacuumed the floor for the third day in a row, so be it. If you are tired, get yourself some rest when your baby nods off and leave the not-so-urgent chores for another time. Try to be flexible and organize yourself around your baby’s schedule.3. Communicate with your SpouseWe all know that communication is a vital ingredient in any relationship. But it is also something that is very easily overlooked, especially when a baby arrives, as our time and attention are now fully diverted towards the baby, sometimes to the exclusion of everything else. Therefore, you have to make time to talk to your spouse and tell him your feelings and difficulties, if any. Encourage him to be more involved in taking care of the baby and more importantly, learn to let go and let him take charge if he is willing. 4. Look at the Bright SideIf you are at the bottom now, then tell yourself that the only way to go is up. Be positive because the difficult moments do not last. After all, your baby will grow and all the problems that you are facing now will most probably not be there within months or even weeks. For example, if you are forced to wake up every two hours each night now to feed your baby, remind yourself that you will probably be waking up only once a night or even not at all, in another two or three months&#8217; time. The difficulties will disappear as time passes and before you know it, your child would have left babyhood behind to graduate into a toddler. Yes, being a mother is not easy, what more if you are new to the task. But whatever negative feelings you may have, learn to put them aside. Do not dwell on them. Instead concentrate on bringing up your baby to the best of your ability by adopting the few suggestions above and/or whatever means that may be helpful. If you learn to enjoy your baby, you will find motherhood a much more pleasant and fulfilling experience. </p>
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		<title>Dog Training: Recognizing, Preventing, and Handling Dog Aggression</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 24 Jan 2010 07:57:05 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Joel</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[A dog is an instinctively aggressive creature. In the wild, aggression came in very handy: dogs needed aggression to hunt, to defend themselves from other creatures, and to defend resources such as food, a place to sleep, and a mate. Selective breeding over the centuries has minimized and refined this trait significantly, but there’s just [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>A dog is an instinctively aggressive creature. In the wild, aggression came in very handy: dogs needed aggression to hunt, to defend themselves from other creatures, and to defend resources such as food, a place to sleep, and a mate. Selective breeding over the centuries has minimized and refined this trait significantly, but there’s just no getting around it: dogs are physically capable of inflicting serious harm (just look at those teeth!) because that’s how they’ve survived and evolved. And Mother Nature is pretty wily – it’s hard to counteract the power of instinct!</p>
<p>But that doesn’t mean that we, as dog lovers and owners, are entirely helpless when it comes to handling our dogs. There’s a lot that we can do to prevent aggression from rearing its ugly head in the first place – and even if prevention hasn’t been possible (for whatever reason), there are still steps that we can take to recognize and deal with it efficiently.</p>
<p>- Different aggression types -</p>
<p>There are several different types of canine aggression. The two most common ones are:</p>
<p>- Aggression towards strangers</p>
<p>- Aggression towards family members</p>
<p>You may be wondering why we’re bothering categorizing this stuff: after all, aggression is aggression, and we want to turf it out NOW, not waste time with the details – right?</p>
<p>Well … not quite. These two different types of aggression stem from very different causes, and require different types of treatment.</p>
<p>- Aggression towards strangers -</p>
<p>What is it?</p>
<p>It’s pretty easy to tell when a dog’s nervy around strange people. He’s jumpy and on the alert: either he can’t sit still and is constantly fidgeting, leaping at the smallest sound, and pacing around barking and whining; or he’s veerrrry still indeed, sitting rock-steady in one place, staring hard at the object of his suspicions (a visitor, the mailman, someone approaching him on the street while he’s tied up outside a store.)</p>
<p>Why does it happen?</p>
<p>There’s one major reason why a dog doesn’t like strange people: he’s never had the chance to get used to them. Remember, your dog relies 100% on you to broaden his horizons for him: without being taken on lots of outings to see the world and realize for himself, through consistent and positive experiences, that the unknown doesn’t necessarily equal bad news for him, how can he realistically be expected to relax in an unfamiliar situation?</p>
<p>What can I do about it?</p>
<p>The process of accustoming your dog to the world and all the strange people (and animals) that it contains is called socialization. This is an incredibly important aspect of your dog’s upbringing: in fact, it’s pretty hard to overemphasize just how important it is. Socializing your dog means exposing him from a young age (generally speaking, as soon as he’s had his vaccinations) to a wide variety of new experiences, new people, and new animals.</p>
<p>How does socialization prevent stranger aggression?</p>
<p>When you socialize your dog, you’re getting him to learn through experience that new sights and sounds are fun, not scary.</p>
<p>It’s not enough to expose an adult dog to a crowd of unfamiliar people and tell him to “Settle down, Roxy, it’s OK” – he has to learn that it’s OK for himself. And he needs to do it from puppyhood for the lesson to sink in.</p>
<p>The more types of people and animals he meets (babies, toddlers, teenagers, old people, men, women, people wearing uniforms, people wearing motorcycle helmets, people carrying umbrellas, etc) in a fun and relaxed context, the more at ease and happy – and safe around strangers &#8211; he’ll be in general.</p>
<p>How can I socialize my dog so that he doesn’t develop a fear of strangers?</p>
<p>Socializing your dog is pretty easy to do – it’s more of a general effort than a specific training regimen.</p>
<p>First of all, you should take him to puppy preschool. This is a generic term for a series of easy group-training classes for puppies (often performed at the vet clinic, which has the additional benefit of teaching your dog positive associations with the vet!).</p>
<p>In a puppy preschool class, about ten or so puppy owners get together with a qualified trainer (often there’ll be at least two trainers present – the more there are, the better, since it means you get more one-on-one time with a professional) and start teaching their puppies the basic obedience commands: sit, stay, and so on.</p>
<p>Even though the obedience work is very helpful and is a great way to start your puppy on the road to being a trustworthy adult dog, really the best part of puppy preschool is the play sessions: several times throughout the class, the puppies are encouraged to run around off-leash and play amongst themselves.</p>
<p>This is an ideal environment for them to learn good social skills: there’s a whole bunch of unfamiliar dogs present (which teaches them how to interact with strange dogs), there’s a whole bunch of unfamiliar people present (which teaches them that new faces are nothing to be afraid of), and the environment is safe and controlled (there’s at least one certified trainer present to make sure that things don’t get out of hand).</p>
<p>Socialization doesn’t just stop with puppy preschool, though. It’s an ongoing effort throughout the life of your puppy and dog: he needs to be taken to a whole bunch of new places and environments.</p>
<p>Remember not to overwhelm him: start off slow, and build up his tolerance gradually.</p>
<p>- Aggression towards family members -</p>
<p>There are two common reasons why a dog is aggressive towards members of his own human family:</p>
<p>- He’s trying to defend something he thinks of as his from a perceived threat (you).</p>
<p>This is known as resource guarding, and though it may sound innocuous, there’s actually a lot more going on here than your dog simply trying to keep his kibble to himself.</p>
<p>- He’s not comfortable with the treatment/handling he’s getting from you or other members of the family.</p>
<p>What’s resource guarding?</p>
<p>Resource guarding is pretty common among dogs. The term refers to overly-possessive behavior on behalf of your dog: for instance, snarling at you if you approach him when he’s eating, or giving you “the eye” (a flinty-eyed, direct stare) if you reach your hand out to take a toy away from him.</p>
<p>All dogs can be possessive from time to time – it’s in their natures. Sometimes they’re possessive over things with no conceivable value: inedible trash, balled up pieces of paper or tissue, old socks. More frequently, however, resource-guarding becomes an issue over items with a very real and understandable value: food and toys.</p>
<p>Why does it happen?</p>
<p>It all boils down to the issue of dominance. Let me take a moment to explain this concept: dogs are pack animals. This means that they’re used to a very structured environment: in a dog-pack, each individual animal is ranked in a hierarchy of position and power (or “dominance”) in relation to every other animal. Each animal is aware of the rank of every other animal, which means he knows specifically how to act in any given situation (whether to back down, whether to push the issue, whether to muscle in or not on somebody else’s turf, etc etc).</p>
<p>To your dog, the family environment is no different to the dog-pack environment. Your dog has ranked each member of the family, and has his own perception of where he ranks in that environment as well.</p>
<p>This is where it gets interesting: if your dog perceives himself as higher up on the social totem-pole than other family members, he’s going to get cheeky. If he’s really got an overinflated sense of his own importance, he’ll start to act aggressively.</p>
<p>Why? Because dominance and aggression are the exclusive rights of a superior-ranked animal. No underdog would ever show aggression or act dominantly to a higher-ranked animal (the consequences would be dire, and he knows it!)</p>
<p>Resource guarding is a classic example of dominant behavior: only a higher-ranked dog (a “dominant” dog) would act aggressively in defence of resources.</p>
<p>To put it plainly: if it was clear to your dog that he is not, in fact, the leader of the family, he’d never even dream of trying to prevent you from taking his food or toys – because a lower-ranking dog (him) will always go along with what the higher-ranking dogs (you and your family) say.</p>
<p>So what can I do about it? The best treatment for dominant, aggressive behavior is consistent, frequent obedience work, which will underline your authority over your dog. Just two fifteen-minute sessions a day will make it perfectly clear to your dog that you’re the boss, and that it pays to do what you say.</p>
<p>You can make this fact clear to him by rewarding him (with treats and lavish praise) for obeying a command, and isolating him (putting him in “time-out”, either outside the house or in a room by himself) for misbehaviour.</p>
<p>- If you’re not entirely confident doing this yourself, you may wish to consider enlisting the assistance of a qualified dog-trainer.</p>
<p>- Brush up on your understanding of canine psychology and communication, so that you understand what he’s trying to say – this will help you to nip any dominant behaviors in the bud, and to communicate your own authority more effectively</p>
<p>- Train regularly: keep obedience sessions short and productive (no more than fifteen minutes – maybe two or three of these per day).</p>
<p>Why doesn’t my dog like to be handled?</p>
<p>All dogs have different handling thresholds. Some dogs like lots of cuddles, and are perfectly content to be hugged, kissed, and have arms slung over their shoulders (this is the ultimate “I’m the boss” gesture to a dog, which is why a lot of them won’t tolerate it.) Others – usually the ones not accustomed to a great deal of physical contact from a very young age – aren’t comfortable with too much full-body contact and will get nervy and agitated if someone persists in trying to hug them.</p>
<p>Another common cause of handling-induced aggression is a bad grooming experience: nail-clipping and bathing are the two common culprits.</p>
<p>When you clip a dog’s nails, it’s very easy to “quick” him – that is, cut the blood vessel that runs inside the nail. This is extremely painful to a dog, and is a sure-fire way to cause a long-lasting aversion to those clippers.</p>
<p>Being washed is something that a great many dogs have difficulty dealing with – a lot of owners, when confronted with a wild-eyed, half-washed, upset dog, feel that in order to complete the wash they have to forcibly restrain him. This only adds to the dog’s sense of panic, and reinforces his impression of a wash as something to be avoided at all costs – if necessary, to defend himself from it with a display of teeth and hackles.</p>
<p>Can I “retrain” him to enjoy being handled and groomed?</p>
<p>In a word: yes. It’s a lot easier if you start from a young age – handle your puppy a lot, get him used to being touched and rubbed all over. Young dogs generally enjoy being handled – it’s only older ones who haven’t had a lot of physical contact throughout their lives that sometimes find physical affection difficult to accept.</p>
<p>Practice picking up his paws and touching them with the clipper; practice taking him into the bath (or outside, under the faucet – whatever works for you, but warm water is much more pleasant for a dog than a freezing spray of ice-water!), and augment the process throughout with lots of praise and the occasional small treat.</p>
<p>For an older dog that may already have had several unpleasant handling/grooming experiences, things are a little more difficult. You need to undo the damage already caused by those bad experiences, which you can do by taking things very slowly – with an emphasis on keeping your dog calm.</p>
<p>The instant he starts to show signs of stress, stop immediately and let him relax. Try to make the whole thing into a game: give him lots of praise, pats, and treats.</p>
<p>Take things slowly. Don’t push it too far: if you get nervous, stop.</p>
<p>Dogs show aggression for a reason: they’re warning you to back off, or else! If your dog just can’t seem to accept being groomed, no matter how much practice you put in, it’s best to hand the job over to the professionals.</p>
<p>Your vet will clip his nails for you (make sure you tell him first that he gets aggressive when the clippers come out, so your vet can take the necessary precautions!). As far as washing and brushing goes, the dog-grooming business is a flourishing industry: for a small fee, you can get your dog washed, clipped, brushed, and whatever else you require by experienced professionals (again, make sure you tell them about your dog’s reaction to the experience first!) </p>
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		<title>Separation Anxiety Disorder goes beyond the Norm</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 23 Jan 2010 20:11:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Joel</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Almost every child ever born suffers from a touch of separation anxiety at some point in the toddler years. Somewhere between the ages of about 18 months and three years, a child will have an incredibly difficult time when a parent is out of sight. Crying, temper tantrums and overall agitation and angst are not [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Almost every child ever born suffers from a touch of separation anxiety at some point in the toddler years. Somewhere between the ages of about 18 months and three years, a child will have an incredibly difficult time when a parent is out of sight. Crying, temper tantrums and overall agitation and angst are not uncommon. When these symptoms do not go away with appropriate distractions or they persist later in life, separation anxiety disorder might be present.<br />
Separation disorder is said to affect about 4% of children from the ages of four up. When a child suffers from severe angst and fears about leaving home or being away from parents or other family, red flags are generally raised. It is important to keep in mind that actual separation anxiety disorder does go well beyond normal homesickness or fears, however.<br />
Some of the more common behaviors in children with this specific disorder include:<br />
 &#8211; Use of avoidance tactics to not separate themselves from parents or loved ones. They will try everything they can think of to not have to go somewhere by themselves.<br />
 &#8211; Extreme defiance about going to school, day care or other places where they will be separated from their caregivers.<br />
 &#8211; Following behaviors. Children that incessantly follow their parents or other family members around might have issues with separation anxiety disorder.<br />
 &#8211; Fear of sleeping alone. While this can be a normal phase in childhood, children with separation anxiety disorder tend to take this to a new level. They will sometimes flatly refuse to sleep alone and will repeatedly turn up in their parents&#8217; room at night.<br />
 &#8211; Nightmares. Children with this problem quite often have nightmares about being parted from friends or family.<br />
Children with bona fide separation disorder quite often benefit from professional guidance and medical support. The condition is one that can be conquered, but it will take some effort on the family&#8217;s part, as well as the child&#8217;s.<br />
One of the biggest problems that children with separation anxiety disorder face is the fact the more serious form is often brushed off as a normal &#8220;phase.&#8221; While each of the symptomatic scenarios are normal to an extent, when a child takes them beyond the norm or they persist too long, help is generally advised. The unfortunate thing about the disorder is that children are often unwittingly depriving themselves of normal, enjoyable childhood activities due to their overwhelming fears of separation.<br />
When its symptoms appear, however, it is wise for parents to pay attention and react accordingly. Professionals can help children overcome their fears and learn to experience life more independently. </p>
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		<title>Learn to Love Your Body!</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 23 Jan 2010 06:50:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Joel</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Motivation is an ever-present need when implementing the change to a healthier lifestyle. Today I have elected to share some extremely personal information in an effort to provide you with some very important reasons to continue on this path you&#8217;ve chosen.
My employment with the American Red Cross came to an end in the middle of [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Motivation is an ever-present need when implementing the change to a healthier lifestyle. Today I have elected to share some extremely personal information in an effort to provide you with some very important reasons to continue on this path you&#8217;ve chosen.<br />
My employment with the American Red Cross came to an end in the middle of May, along with a thousand others nationwide. A 200 million dollar deficit predicated this massive layoff that affected most of my coworkers and many who dedicated their lives to this noble institution. We felt displaced and found ourselves polishing up our resumes.<br />
When the notice came of our impending departures, and the resulting termination of our health insurance, scheduling routine annual exams suddenly moved to the forefront of our &#8220;to do&#8221; lists. One such appointment was to my family practitioner. The visit included a routine blood draw and came with the added benefit of seeing the look of amazement on his face as he noticed the large weight loss since my last visit. (By the way, that is a really fun aspect of the physical change, seeing someone who hasn&#8217;t seen you in a long time and watching his or her reaction!)<br />
So last week I received the test results of my lab work and I was thrilled! Not only all normal, but better than normal!!!<br />
Weight: 185 lbs<br />
Total Cholesterol 189 (Normal range 165-199)<br />
HDL 77 (Normal range 35-59; doctors say anything above 50 is good &#8211; 77 is Great!)<br />
LDL 90 (Normal range is less than or equal to 129; cardiologists are recommending below 100)<br />
Triglycerides 111 (55-199)<br />
I remember my old values being out of range, especially the triglycerides, so I called the doctor again. Here are the old results for comparison purposes.<br />
Weight: 290 lbs (Highest was 330 lbs)<br />
Total Cholesterol 218 (Normal range 164-200; abnormal)<br />
HDL 80.9 (32-96; within normal range)<br />
LDL 94.7 (90-190; also within normal range, but new values are better)<br />
Triglycerides 214 (30-200; abnormal)<br />
Many times we focus on the physical appearance of weight loss and mentally we compare ourselves with others. Unrealistic images and touched up photos of movie stars and models bombard our senses and we tend to develop a false picture of what it &#8220;looks like&#8221; to be healthy. For most of us, we are not and never will be a size zero.  The truth is, the average size woman in the United States is a size 14, the size at which &#8220;plus sized&#8221; clothing begins.<br />
The point is, the most important reason we should lose weight is to move to a healthy lifestyle!<br />
As I excitedly shared the results of my blood work with my mom, she informed me she had noticed many changes in my health. Not being quite so in tune, I asked her to share what she had noticed.<br />
These are her observations and they&#8217;re shared to encourage you to look beyond the physical aspects.<br />
Sleep apnea has resolved itself and a CPAP machine is no longer required.<br />
Breathing difficulties are no longer and issue and inhalers are a thing of the past.<br />
With less weight on my frame, there is no longer the pressure on my bladder and bladder control issues are no longer existent.<br />
The knee pain is gone and my knees are stable! It is no wonder they had trouble. Can you imagine carrying a 146-lb person on your shoulders day in and day out? I get tired carrying an infant or a toddler for short periods of time and I get to put them down!<br />
My blood pressure is in the normal range with the medication half of the previous doseage. We are now assessing whether it can be eliminated all together.<br />
The heart health benefits are shown in the blood test results above and my risk for cardiac disease has greatly improved.<br />
While I did not have any issues with my blood sugar, it should be noted that had I continued on the same path, statistics show it would only have been a matter of time before Type II diabetes developed. (It can be precipitated by obesity.)<br />
Let&#8217;s stop thinking about outside appearances and focus on the inner working of our bodies. Try comparing it to shopping for a car. Would you want to purchase the car owned by a mechanic who had meticulously cared for the motor? Or, would you purchase the one whose owner participated in the pleasure of many long road trips but failed to perform the routine maintenance?<br />
You see, if we do not choose to love our bodies and treat them in a kind and caring manner, we stand to lose our health. If that happens, we stand to lose everything that is near and dear to our hearts. Without your health, you won&#8217;t be able to participate in activities, your longevity is threatened and your life may become burdened with the cares of tending to the needs of your health.<br />
By making health the No.1 reason to eat nutritionally and exercise regularly, you preserve your body to participate and enjoy all that life has to offer! You will be alive to enjoy the love of your family and friends and that is truly where our treasure lies! The Choice is Yours! </p>
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		<title>Baby Hand-me-down Clothing &#8211; Money Saving Techniques Revealed</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 22 Jan 2010 18:48:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Joel</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[The financial drain involved in buying new clothes for the kids is something that bewilders any parent and also puts them in a situation where they think if they would be able to support the expenses that will be met while the kid goes to school. This is the reason why the &#8216;Hand Me Down&#8217; [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The financial drain involved in buying new clothes for the kids is something that bewilders any parent and also puts them in a situation where they think if they would be able to support the expenses that will be met while the kid goes to school. This is the reason why the &#8216;Hand Me Down&#8217; clothing became famous. The younger kid wears what was once worn by the elder one. This will not work if one kid is a male kid and the other one is a female kid, and if one is fat and the other one is thin, but otherwise it quite works.<br />
Keeping those problems away, like the gender difference and the size difference, there are other problems also related to this and it makes the whole hand me down system impractical. For example, the wear and tear of the cloth should be considered. Sometimes the kids are really tough with their clothes and the cloth wears out, these cannot be handed out to its sibling. But, otherwise, the whole hand me down system works really well with the baby clothes.<br />
There are not many issues related to the wear and tear as the baby clothes are not generally worn for long, the child outgrows all its clothes in a matter of few months, especially when it is growing from the infant stage to a toddler. Apart from this, the kids are inactive till they start crawling around. So, not much of damage is inflicted on the clothes as the kids only eat, sleep, and sleep again. So, the chances for the cloth getting worn out are pretty less.<br />
But the gender is something that is hard to overcome, because the parents might prefer seeing their kids in a different color all together. This is where the purchase of gender-indifferent clothes, or unisex baby clothing comes. The problem related to genders can be easily resolved by getting unisex baby clothing rather than choosing a cloth that can be worn only by the male child, or by the female child. Some people might be fond of male kids while others prefer female kids, so, people generally don&#8217;t have choice but to wait.<br />
In case a couple is too sure that they will not stop with just one kid and have one more or even two more in the future, then, it is suggested that they go in for clothes that can be worn both by the male and female child, so, go in for the unisex baby clothing wherever possible, and do not throw them away immediately after your kid outgrows the best attire that it has ever worn till then. Instead, start using the hand me down technique and follow the chain to save some money out of clothing. </p>
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		<title>Baby Assistance For Baby Grooming</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 22 Jan 2010 07:37:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Joel</dc:creator>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>When a baby comes, your whole life changes as now you have an added responsibility. Most parents are not prepared and do not have much knowledge about parenting. But taking care of a new born is not a joke because it is a 24×7 job and you have to be there without losing your smile and enthusiasm. Crying babies is the biggest concern among parents and most parents are not trained how to make a baby quiet. There are thousands of e-books where you can learn how to tackle crying babies.<br />
There are a few things which you need to understand when the baby cries. Babies cannot talk like us so they cry and as parents we have to decode the reason of their crying. The e-books teaches you that-<br />
&#9679; The baby is crying maybe because he is hungry. New born babies need to be fed after almost every 2-3 hours and when this requirement is not fulfillment, the crying starts.<br />
&#9679; If a baby is crying, it is an indication that the baby has pooped and needs his diapers to be changed instantly. It is important to keep the diaper dry as wet diapers may lead to rashes.<br />
&#9679; Another reason could be that the baby is probably tired and needs to sleep. Most new born babies sleep for approximately 14-15 hours in a day or sometimes more than that.<br />
&#9679; Babies are sensitive to noise and other such disturbances, in such situations you can take your baby out for a calm relaxing walk outside or else change the sitting place. Other factors could be that the baby is probably feeling lonely and wants some attention or the weather condition is not comfortable.<br />
Once if you are able to figure out all these reasons, taking care of your crying baby will be much easier.<br />
E-BOOKS ON HOW TO KEEP A BABY HAPPY DURING DRESSING OR CHANGING DIAPERS-<br />
You will get tons of e-books on changing baby&#8217;s diapers and each one of them will give you a different advice. The information you can get on these e-books will teach you in easy steps. These may include-<br />
&#9679; In order to get the baby&#8217;s co-operation, you should try to do it when the baby is in a happy mood. You should not rush in without giving enough time to the baby to adapt to the change.<br />
&#9679; While doing this task you should only focus on the baby rather than paying attention to some other work. In this will you will be able to win baby&#8217;s confidence.<br />
&#9679; If you have a toddler, it is always important to involve the kid in the changing process as well and if you do it regularly the child will adapt to it as a habit. Regular practicing of this exercise will help you get the child&#8217;s co-operation.<br />
&#9679; Patience is the last and the most important step. It is necessary to behave with babies in calm and composed manner, losing temper will only worsen up things. So, remember to be patient.<br />
HELPING YOUR CHILD LEARN RESPONSIBLE BEHAVIOUR-<br />
Parenting is a very complex task as most of the people are unaware about the hidden facts about it. Loving your child is important but most parents fear that this may spoil their children. Many parents are confused about how to handle their children&#8217;s mistakes. The e-books are a perfect guide for such circumstances. From the e-books you can learn how to teach your child to respect elders, be honest, handle bullies, choose friends, share things with others and many more such day to day habits which later on become a part of their personality.<br />
You can find these e-books easily on the internet as there are various websites which offer them. The e-books cover a wide variety of parental issues and also provide tips and counseling as well. You can download the e-books or make an order and the company will mail them to you. The biggest advantage of the e-books is that they can be accessed from anywhere instantly and if you want you can print them as well. The e-books do not require any space for storing and many of them can be transformed to audio books as well. </p>
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		<title>TALA AND THE STORY OF A WITCH</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 21 Jan 2010 19:46:10 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Joel</dc:creator>
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Tala and the story of a witch 
By Collins Nyadida 
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<p>Tala and the story of a witch </p>
<p>By Collins Nyadida </p>
<p>Tala lived in a small village called Kokwanyo with his parents but he stayed mostly with his ageing grandmother whose homestead was just a stone throw away from their home. He helped her with household chores and looked after her goats. </p>
<p>Tala had twin elder brothers who were in upper primary school. They were candidates, expected to sit for their final standard eight national examinations later in the year and they worked hard; waking up very early in the morning to go to school at six, before the villagers woke up to weed their crops. </p>
<p>Everyone in the village knew about the twin brothers and how they performed outstandingly at school. Their parents were very happy with their performance which left no doubt that they would pass their final examinations with flying colours and Tala was reminded every now and then to follow in their footsteps. </p>
<p>Tala did not go back to school in the afternoons because he was in class three and all lower classes did not have after lunch lessons, unlike their counterparts in upper levels. He therefore attended to his grandmother&#8217;s goats and collected firewood in the grazing fields. </p>
<p>Tala loved his grandmother very much compared to his own parents because the grandmother liked to rescue him whenever his mother threatened to beat him for minor mistakes which did not deserve any beatings. For that reason, Tala spent all his free time with her, assisting here and there with extra chores, like slashing the compound, hoeing and fetching water from his father&#8217;s well. That was very unlike his twin brothers who only came to their grandmother&#8217;s house to study and spend the night. </p>
<p>When nightfall came and crickets started chirping merrily, his grandmother would tell them sweet stories, as they watched stars from the sky and waited to retire to sleep. </p>
<p>There was that story of a wizard, which came to pervade Tala&#8217;s mind since his grandmother narrated it one evening. It was the story of an old woman witch who kidnapped and ate the tender meat of small boys who refused to listen and obey their parents. </p>
<p>That story made him afraid and his suspicion rose over the old woman neighbour who had all the mannerisms of a witch. The woman&#8217;s name was Herewe and if someone was headed to or coming from the grazing fields, one had to follow the pathway passing near her hut. </p>
<p>At school everyone confessed to Tala, that it was very true that the old woman was a witch. He wanted to ask his grandmother about it but the fear that the knowing eyes of Herewe would find out what he was up to discouraged him. </p>
<p>His mind could not stop thinking that the witch in her grandmother&#8217;s story was Herewe -the Old woman neighbour and he grew gloomy and loony. </p>
<p>Whenever he passed her hut on his way to the grazing fields, he found himself elating his nose this way and that way, trying to smell any strange stench which could come out from the small hut. There was nothing peculiar though, but he swore to his friends that he felt a strange smell of human flesh boiling under hot water drums.  So many stories with different versions about witches were told and retold among his peers and in the end it left very little doubt not to suspect Herewe of being one of the witches. </p>
<p>&#8220;She eats only naughty boys,&#8221; that was what her grandmother had said in about her in the story. From that day on, Tala tried to behave responsively when looking after his goats, he found himself fearing being perceived or thought of as naughty because in that he would be sought after by a witch who lived very close to them. The idea that he was being watched by Herewe could not get out of his thoughts and he walked suspiciously looking behind his shoulders for any queer creature who might be send to seize him. </p>
<p>When he took his goats to the grazing field he tried to be careful not let them invade someone&#8217;s crops. His grandmother called him a lousy herdsman and it felt on him like an abuse. </p>
<p>Once in the grazing fields, he played football with his friends until the goats went home on their own without someone to guide them off from branching into other people&#8217;s farms where they eat fleshy stalks of green maize and succulent leaves of cotton plants. </p>
<p>His grandmother was fed up with complaints brought to her about Tala&#8217;s carelessness with goats and she would caution him whenever he left home with goats. </p>
<p>&#8220;Tala, if you must play football, please, be alert to where the goats are grazing. I don&#8217;t like quarrelling with my neighbours,&#8221; said the grandmother almost pleadingly. </p>
<p>It was not fair to blame Tala entirely, he tried the best he could in taking care of the goats, but the goats were cheeky and stubborn too. They sneaked as soon as they realized that Tala buried his head into a game of football.  And Tala would run madly about to search for them in people&#8217;s farms. </p>
<p>His inability to control the cheeky goats made him fearsome of the prospect that one day a witch would come for his neck on that account. </p>
<p>He could not put the thought and the feeling away, and to him Herewe took every stock of his bad behaviors. If he met her by accident on his way he would hide quickly in the nearest bush not to be seen by her. </p>
<p>2. </p>
<p>Tala and some of his friends seemed to have plausible reasons, to believe that Herewe was a witch.  She lived by herself in a small hut surrounded by trees and fruits of all varieties .The fruits were always ripe and alluring, however no one could dare to come near the plants and eat them. Not even those mangoes whose branches over hanged outside the fence of her homestead. Most passers-by went on their way even without looking or admiring the golden yellow fruits. </p>
<p>However there was one and only one Juti, who had eaten Herewe&#8217;s fruits without anything happening to him. Juti was Tala&#8217;s best friend and on the said day, Tala and his other friends had waited in abated breath to see if Juti would wake up another day without being hospitalized &#8211; but nothing happened to him. In the end he was hailed as a great hero who had done the impossible. </p>
<p>Herewe&#8217;s homestead was fenced with dried branches of deadly thorns. It was impossible for anyone to break into it without using the gate.  The doors of her hut remained closed all day long. Beside her hut, there was a modern granary and the only one of its kind in the whole of Kokwanyo village. It had a raised wooden floor and could stalk over fifty sacs of dry grains. </p>
<p>It had seemed to Tala and his friends that there were so many secrets within Herewe&#8217;s homestead. Like all witches they had come across in fairy tales from their books, she had no husband or children anyone knew of. </p>
<p>She climbed on the roof of her small hut and thatched it by herself without getting someone to assist her and that was something very unlikely of women, especially as elderly as she was. </p>
<p>No one in the entire village of Kokwanyo had any idea, when she woke up in the morning. She was always found weeding her crops as early as six when Tala&#8217;s brothers would be going to school. She would remain working in her farm until dusk when mothers came back from the market. </p>
<p>Her farm was peculiar too; all types of crops could be found grown inside it, beginning with groundnuts, beans, potatoes, vegetables, sorghum and maize. </p>
<p>Unlike her neighbours, she kept no livestock. Instead there was a giant black cat with bluish eye balls. It was so large, in fact, twice as big as an average adult cat. Her meowing too was quite a scare. It was more of a baby crying than a cat meowing. </p>
<p>3. </p>
<p>Then, there came a day when Tala came face to face with Herewe. </p>
<p>It had all started from the football ground where Tala had been playing football with his buddies for hours and hours as usual. The ball was made from collected pieces of used plastic bags and artistically woven into round shape with sisal fibers. The game was at its climax when Tala discovered that his goats were missing. His team was leading by four goals to three and their opponent mounted a spirited pressure on them to concede an equalizer. That was the time Tala suddenly left his goal keeping position to check on his goats. </p>
<p>&#8220;Hey I am out&#8230; could someone come for goal keeping&#8221; Tala shouted at Juti, who captained their team and refereed the match at the same time. </p>
<p>&#8220;What is it now Tala?&#8221; said Juti angrily. Juti feared defeat and he would do anything within his means to make his team win. In fact, he had refused to concede a goal before then, claiming that it had been scored when the goal keeper was out to check on the goats. All in all, he was still considered fairer and that was why he would be chosen to referee over other contenders. </p>
<p>&#8220;My goats&#8230;I can&#8217;t see them anywhere,&#8221; Tala said frantically. </p>
<p>&#8220;You better hurry up and check the closest farm,&#8221; Juti advised. </p>
<p>Tala knew what Juti meant by that, he was teasing him, because like everyone else, he feared Herewe and did not wish to pick a quarrel with her over such grave issue as goats destroying her crops. </p>
<p>It was her farm which was the nearest to their playing ground and everyone with goats were keen not to let his goats wander away into it. </p>
<p>4. </p>
<p>When Tala arrived at Herewe&#8217;s shamba, he walked quietly and looked over the hedge if there were goats inside but no goat was within his sight. Instead he came face to face with Herewe. It was as if she had been waiting for his coming. </p>
<p>&#8220;Oh you scoundrel eh, your goats&#8230;?&#8221; the words could not come out clearly from her coarse voice and Tala took off before the last word dropped out. </p>
<p>He simply took off to his heels, like a herd of sheep which had seen a stray dog. He did not even look behind him to find out, if he was being pursued at all but ran as fast as if Herewe was just right behind him, instead. </p>
<p>Those who met him gave way quickly since he was like some wild bull running away from the herd. His manner of running was astounding to look at. He threw his hands in the air and shouted,&#8221; waai, waai&#8221; until he became deaf. </p>
<p>It was not until after he had gone a kilometre away that he decided to stop shouting and look behind him. There was no one coming, only rain clouds gathering in the blue sky beyond. The cumulus nimbus clouds covered the sun and darkness seemed to advance quicker as if it wanted to rain. That only served to increase his fears and he started running homewards again. He could not tell whether the goats had reached home or had been taken by Herewe. </p>
<p>When he reached home, there were no goats anywhere in the compound. </p>
<p>&#8220;Oh my god, what will I do,&#8221; he asked himself as he stood by the gate to decide his next course of action. </p>
<p>&#8220;What will I do, if she took them away to her home?&#8221; he asked himself several questions without any apparent answers coming to his mind and at last he decided to leave before it became very late or before his grandmother discovered what was happening. </p>
<p>&#8220;Tala, is that you, come back here?&#8221; shouted his grandmother. </p>
<p>&#8220;Yes grandma,&#8221; quickly answered Tala. </p>
<p>&#8220;Where are my goats?&#8221; she asked in astonishment. It was very unusual to see Tala without the goats and his grandmother knew that something was a miss already. </p>
<p>&#8220;Was just eh, just eh,&#8221; Tala struggled to explain, </p>
<p>&#8220;Eh, what? Have you lost my goats again you rascal?&#8221; she inquired angrily. </p>
<p>&#8220;I thought they had already arrived here, grandma,&#8221; Tala tried to sound calmed but his voice shook and trembled. </p>
<p>&#8220;Oh Tala my grandchild&#8230; When will you start thinking like a grown up?&#8221; asked the grandmother. </p>
<p>&#8220;But grandma&#8230;,&#8221; Tala tried to explain but he was harshly cut off. </p>
<p>&#8220;Off you go, you silly rascal, get back here before nightfall with my goats,&#8221; she shouted behind him as he ran off madly again. He couldn&#8217;t make his mind immediately and he felt tears streaming down his cheeks. </p>
<p>5. </p>
<p>He was sweating profusely and someone might have thought that he had been rained on severely for the past one hour. The thought of confronting Herewe nagged him to the bone marrow. &#8220;No way,&#8221; he mattered between boughs of coughs. </p>
<p>To ask Herewe about the whereabouts of his goats was something beyond his imagination. </p>
<p>&#8220;What if I am caught for an evening meal?&#8221; he asked himself quietly. </p>
<p>It was then the thought of his friend Juti. He was the only one who could help him out, the only one who was not terrified of witches. He remembered the incident when Juti ate those mangoes without winking his eyes or complaining over any bitter taste.  </p>
<p>~ </p>
<p>Tala wounded his pathway to Juti&#8217; home eventually. It was not far-off from her grandmother&#8217;s home &#8211; a mere three kilometres away. </p>
<p>He knew that Juti had gone home, by the glance of the setting sun and he would be preparing to milk their cows. Juti was a bit older than Tala. Among boys in their class, he was the only one owning a simba (a small hut for boys), and above all he was well-informed about harvesting honey and universal things. He knew so many stuffs such as, how to avert teachers from whipping him by swallowing a tiny grain of stone after tying a knot to a growing strand of grass. It worked for him but not for others like Tala. He did that daily before he went to school in the morning and returned home at mid-day without being cane by any teacher. If he was cane then, it meant that he had not performed the ritual on the said day. But above all he knew how to keep off evil spirits especially from dreams, although he couldn&#8217;t be proved wrong or right. </p>
<p>There was that day he explained to everyone at school, how witches were fearful of pig&#8217;s bones. He had stashed such several pierces under his bed in the little hut to protect himself. </p>
<p>He had been meaning to give Tala a pierce from bones, but his grandmother warned him that God did not like such mind-set from His people. </p>
<p>However on that particular day, he felt like keeping one and he asked Juti about it on their way to Herewe&#8217;s homestead. </p>
<p>&#8220;Are you with those bones you told us about?&#8221; </p>
<p>&#8220;Yes, but just a pierce for me,&#8221; said Juti steadily. </p>
<p>&#8220;I would have loved to have a pierce, I feel awful,&#8221; said Tala. </p>
<p>&#8220;Don&#8217;t be worried, one bit is powerful enough for both of us, you shouldn&#8217;t be nervous,&#8221; Juti gave him a soothing pat as he explained so. &#8220;And be quiet now, we are almost there. &#8221; </p>
<p>Tala followed Juti from behind and tugged on his sleeves like a toddler who was seeing a naughty puppy for the first time in his life. </p>
<p>6. </p>
<p>&#8220;Is anybody home?&#8221; Juti called out as he plunged his right hand into the pocket of his pair of short trousers as if to assure Tala that everything was all right. </p>
<p>There was no answer and Tala&#8217;s eyes went roaming around the compound, searching for clues to where his goats could have been kept, but nothing suggestive was forthcoming.  Darkness had started setting in, and every tree in the homestead was a shadow of a human being, either standing up straight or squatting. </p>
<p>&#8220;Grandma, are you home yet,&#8221; Juti called out once again. Still no answer came except for the echoes of his voice, which bounced back with a fearsome reverberation which made Tala to writhe inside with dread.  The crying of birds welcoming dusk sounded too depressing to him, as if they were spelling some sort of looming disaster.  Tala&#8217;s heart beat went thumbing loudly between his ribs and the urge to wet his pants couldn&#8217;t be resisted and few drops tickled out involuntarily. </p>
<p>&#8220;We better go back Juti, before something bad happens.&#8221; </p>
<p>&#8220;No way, not until we are sure where the goats are,&#8221; Juti protested. </p>
<p>&#8220;I doubt, they don&#8217;t seem to be anywhere here, it is so silent,&#8221; Tala countered softly fearing even the sound of his voice. The look on him was terrible, like someone under a high fever. He touched his forehead and thick drops of perspirations streamed uncontrollably down his face. </p>
<p>Juti on the other hand was very much relaxed and plucked a fruit from a branch of a tree hanging overhead and ate while Tala hissed fearfully in protest. </p>
<p>&#8220;No please Juti, we better keep to what has brought us here.&#8221; </p>
<p>&#8220;You coward! I feel so hungry after that gruelling match we played today,&#8221; explained Juti. </p>
<p>The black huge cat ensued from nowhere and Tala saw it first and jumped onto Juti&#8217;s arm. </p>
<p>&#8220;Oh my God, look Juti,&#8221; he whispered. </p>
<p>&#8220;I think she is somewhere around here,&#8221; Juti said and waited for the next thing to happen again. The moments Tala had been avoiding ever since he confirmed that Herewe was a witch arrived without being wished. </p>
<p>It was said that Herewe and her cat were inseparable. Wherever she went, the cat would follow her steps and wherever the cat went, she would follow her steps. </p>
<p>&#8220;Is that you grandma?&#8221; Juti called out to the pitch darkness, for he could certainly see nobody in the vicinity. </p>
<p>7. </p>
<p>Hardly had the sentences dropped out of Juti&#8217;s mouth than Herewe came about.  It was meowing of the cat, &#8220;Eehaa, eehaa,&#8221; which jostled their attention at first and it followed with a huge form rolling about like a beetle with a heavy load of cow dung. </p>
<p>She was carrying a heavy bundle of firewood on her head. Tala could not see clearly, the difference between the bundle of firewood and the person carrying it. To him, it was like a whole mass of a body of some ogre and he clanged to Juti even more tightly. The urge to wet his pant came up once again and he released out more drops. </p>
<p>&#8220;What are you two rascals doing in my home at this time?&#8221; she inquired as she went to pile her load of firewood on top of other bundles already laid down neatly besides her sophisticated granary. </p>
<p>&#8220;Oh grandma, we came to see you,&#8221; Juti tried to sound pleasant and confident after hiding what he had been eating behind him. </p>
<p>&#8220;Oh&#8230; to see me, eh&#8230; or to eat my mangoes?&#8221; she taunted cleverly and Tala almost ran away. Anyone could tell that Juti had been munching something by just listening to how words pronounced out of his mouth. </p>
<p>But Tala could not see that and he wondered how Herewe had known that Juti had stolen her mangoes. That could not be possible if she wasn&#8217;t a witch. </p>
<p>His suspicions increased and he felt trapped in Herewe&#8217;s nets. He wanted to plead for forgiveness before it became late, but he lacked courage to speak straight to her. </p>
<p>&#8220;And who is your friend and  &#8230;Why is he hiding behind you?&#8221; Herewe inquired as her terrifying black cat wounded herself on her legs. Tala&#8217;s hair stood up as if they were combed from inside out. He waited for Juti to say something but Juti kept quiet until he felt his body tensing like a tightened wire of a guitar, ready to twang at any careless least of touch. </p>
<p>&#8220;Oh this is my friend Tala. We have come to find out, if you may have seen his goats,&#8221; Juti explained politely as he held onto Tala. </p>
<p>&#8220;Oh it is you again eh,&#8221; she recognises Tala and said, &#8220;Oh waai, waai.&#8221; Trying to mimick how Tala had cried when he had seen her in that evening and Juti chuckled lightly. </p>
<p>&#8220;I would have killed you today,&#8221; she finally commented. </p>
<p>The word kill made Tala to jerk off from Juti&#8217;s arm, but Juti held tightly to restrain him from running away. </p>
<p>&#8220;Relax Tala, there is nothing to be scared of,&#8221; coaxed Juti. </p>
<p>Herewe was struggling to open the door by that time and she did not realise the drama which went on behind her back quietly. But ultimately Tala broke out into wailing and all attention turned to him. He was crying frenziedly which made it difficult for Herewe to hear the words he was speaking out. </p>
<p>&#8220;Forgive me, I will never play again, I swear I will not, I promise you, I will never play when herding goats,&#8221; streams of tears welled down his cheeks and those words got muffled up in the commotion. </p>
<p>&#8220;Calm down, please calm down,&#8221; Juti pleaded and Herewe was taken by complete surprise to comprehend what was happening between the two boys. </p>
<p>&#8220;What is the matter, what has happened to him?&#8221; Herewe asked. </p>
<p>&#8220;He lost his goats,&#8221; responded Juti. </p>
<p>&#8220;But I just saw them this evening,&#8221; explained Herewe.&#8221; I had barred them from entering my shamba&#8221; </p>
<p>&#8220;Yes but, they are nowhere to be seen. Not even at their home,&#8221; Juti explained on his behalf and since he could not talk intelligibly. </p>
<p>&#8220;Better check at home again, they couldn&#8217;t go anywhere, it was late.&#8221; </p>
<p>She spoke so kindly and respectfully that Tala found himself buoyed off from his fears and he muttered &#8220;thank you grandma&#8221; without second thoughts. </p>
<p>&#8220;We are going back then grandma,&#8221; Juti informed as he resumed taking bites from his fruit ravenously and without fear. </p>
<p>&#8220;No yet, just a minute please,&#8221; Herewe countered quickly and fumbled with the lock to open the wooden door to her small hut. Tala almost stopped breathing if Juti did not rush to assure him that it was alright. </p>
<p>Herewe, lit a small tin lamp and a dim light flickered about the tiny hut with life. Tala wondered what Herewe was up to, by calling on them to wait. </p>
<p>&#8220;You better get in here where I can see your ugly faces.&#8221; she called out to them and brought out a bunch of ripe bananas from a basket hanged on the wall. She gave each a generous cluster with five pieces of plump fruits. </p>
<p>Tala could not believe his eyes and he took his share undecidedly. </p>
<p>&#8220;You can help yourself with these,&#8221; she offered. </p>
<p>&#8220;I will have to visit the market soon or else, my bananas will rot in here,&#8221; Herewe said almost to herself and sunk her heavy body into an easy chair placed on the opposite end of the house. </p>
<p>The small hut had taken Tala by surprise, he had expected to see water drums filled up with chunks of meats from human being but there was nothing of that sort anywhere. </p>
<p>When he realised that Juti was eating his banana he found a psyche and burrowed his teeth greedily on his share. </p>
<p>He had been stunned when he heard Herewe speaking very coolly without the husky voice he had come to identify with her. A new revelation was setting on him, that Herewe was just like any other granny he knew of in the village of Kokwanyo. All those stories he had heard about Herewe melted slowly as his eyes looked about the room taking account of every single detail therein. </p>
<p>There was a water pot for preserving drinking water at the end next to where her chair was. The floor was smeared with cow dung and decorated smartly just like the floor of his grandmother. Behind the door was her three cooking stones with stubs of firewood which had remained after previous cooking. Black soot hanged inside the roof like any other hut he had seen before. </p>
<p>8. </p>
<p>But of significance was the huge portrait in black and white colour, a portrait of an elderly man clad in military uniform, hanged on the wall besides the basket where Herewe had taken out the bananas. It was the only intriguing item in the small hut. </p>
<p>Tala wondered who the old man was. He wanted to ask Juti but his thoughts were suddenly interrupted when Herewe spoke. She was evidently exhausted from hard work and leaned on the chair as she spoke to Juti. Words came out of her mouth as if they dropped by themselves without her involvement. </p>
<p>&#8220;Hey Juti who is milking the cows today, if you are still here at this time?&#8221; she enquired. </p>
<p>&#8220;Oh am leaving right away grandma,&#8221; Juti realised suddenly, that a task of milking the cows was still waiting on him back at home. </p>
<p>&#8220;You better hurry up and get me my share, I would like to sleep early, I feel strangely exhausted today,&#8221; she said thoughtfully almost to herself, &#8220;and please do remind your mother about our tomorrow&#8217;s meeting.&#8221; </p>
<p>Tala could not follow the direction the conversation was taking as it finally occurred to him, that Juti and Herewe knew one another. </p>
<p>&#8220;And you young man, tell your grandmother that I will not break my back for the sake of her goats,&#8221; That was directed to Tala. </p>
<p>&#8220;Yes, yes grandmother,&#8221; he answered mechanically as if driven more by sheer fear than politeness. </p>
<p>When they had left Herewe&#8217;s compound, Tala insisted that Juti explain things to him at once. </p>
<p>&#8220;What is going on Juti?&#8221; he stirred the argument, &#8220;Why did you not tell me that you are related to her?&#8221; </p>
<p>&#8220;Of course we are related. She is my grandmother and the portrait you saw hanged on the wall belonged to my grandfather who died long time ago,&#8221; Juti explained. </p>
<p>&#8220;Have you got that bone for driving away bad spirits?&#8221; Tala asked and touched Juti&#8217;s pockets to feel any hard object. </p>
<p>&#8220;I never had any bone, to be honest Tala,&#8221; he replied. &#8220;I wanted to take you people for a ride when I realised how you mistook my grandmother for a witch.&#8221; </p>
<p>Tala could not believe him, he searched and emptied all the content of the three pockets to ascertain for himself but he found nothing like a bone. </p>
<p>He felt very sorry for all the things he had said about Herewe and the thought of apologising to Juti came to his mind.  Yet, he couldn&#8217;t bring himself to apologise since it was Juti who had himself to blame after all, for having fuelled a false belief about his grandmother to others &#8211; that she was a witch. </p>
<p>&#8220;I can&#8217;t believe you, why do you refer to your granny with her name? Tala enquired. &#8220;Is that not being disrespectful of you?&#8221; </p>
<p>&#8220;No it isn&#8217;t, she is the one who insists to be referred with that name. Herewe is the name of my grandfather whose picture you saw on the wall.&#8221; Juti explained. </p>
<p>~ </p>
<p>Herewe was one unique grandmother in the village of Kokwanyo. She was a very hard working woman and very much reserved. She did not like to socialise with people quite often and instead spent her time working in the shamba to assist her son in bringing up his large family which she was proud of. That was mainly because he was way above his contemporaries by being a husband to three wives at a tender age. Juti was one of her many grandchildren. </p>
<p>Herewe was determined not to allow old age to weigh her down and besides, her only son had a larger family and she felt oblige to assist him occasionally whenever she could. </p>
<p>Whenever the crop yields turn out poorly she would share her grains with her daughters in law and that gave her all the reasons to toil in the shamba day after day for the betterment of her extended family. She was after all, a wife of a soldier who had fought in the Second World War and brought several medallions which spoke of his gallantry. Hard work was the only way to live according to the whim of her beloved husband who had died long time ago before children like Tala and Juti were born. </p>
<p>~ </p>
<p>Tala and Juti came to where the pathway split and bid each other good night. </p>
<p>&#8220;Should you fail to find your goats at home, do let me know by tomorrow morning, remember it would be Saturday-no school for us!&#8221; Juti shouted happily. </p>
<p>9. </p>
<p>When Tala reached home, he found his grandmother waiting for him; she was very much worried about where he had been at such late hour of the evening. </p>
<p>&#8220;Where have you been grandson?&#8221; she was almost sorry for having sent him away harshly. &#8220;The goats arrived long time ago immediately you left and if you can see their distended stomachs! I will not be surprised if someone comes to report tomorrow that his crops had been destroyed.&#8221; </p>
<p>&#8220;No, they didn&#8217;t destroy someone&#8217;s shamba, grandma,&#8221; Tala defended. </p>
<p>&#8220;I have sung to you more than once, to be careful with goats nowadays, but you can&#8217;t heed even a good advice,&#8221; she said attentively. </p>
<p>~ </p>
<p>The day had been long for Tala, but so many good things had eventually turned out in the end and he had every reason to smile and be jovial. </p>
<p>If it was not the joy of finding his goats safely at home then it was the consoling discovery that Harewe was not a witch after all &#8211; but a lovely and generous grandmother who had given him sweat bananas and above all she was the grandmother to his friend Juti. </p>
<p>He thought of recounting what had happened that day to his grandmother, but thought otherwise since she might have known about the outlawed football playing which went on in the fields when they went grazing. </p>
<p>When the story time came that night, they did not, as usual, sit around the fireside to watch the stars in the blue sky above but they bundled themselves inside the small hut, because it had drizzled outside. And they listened to grandmother&#8217;s stories. Once again the story of a witch who abducted stubborn boys and fed on their tender meat was retold and that time round the narrative was far much different and Tala realised that the witch in the story could not have been Herewe by all means.  </p>
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